More dangerous myths?

I have been asked to consider why gay relationships are always short lived and why gay men are unreliable. When asking this kind of question, however, you have to be absolutely sure that this is actually the case.

Do we know for certain that gay men are more unreliable and promiscuous? Maybe they are, but we cannot afford to lend the right wing traditionalists any falsities. By asking such a question we are making a grave assumption and almost falling into and living the stereotype. Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecies?

I will for the sake of argument consider some points I have thought about today. I am going to answer the question as if its premise were in fact true.

Firstly gay men are men. So maybe this is not a 'gay issue' but a 'man' issue. Being male is what all gay men have in common. Maybe men are just hornier. This might be a bit hard going but I researched rape specific adaptations in male bird species as part of my university dissertation. You're probably asking what on earth promiscuity and unreliability have to do with rape. I hope I can try and link these.

Many male animal species seem to have evolved adaptations that trap and hold females in place during coitus, to help propagate their species. Perhaps human men have similar psychological adaptations in place that increase their sex drive, or their inability to commit as much as women to a single relationship. This would certainly help increase the likely hood of reproduction. Being gay is a genetic trait, however, the drive to propagate is potentially linked to a separate genome, thus, being gay does not halt the inability or likely hood of commitment.

Most of this is speculation and not based on much research, please correct me if I'm wrong. but what I'm arguing here is that this unreliability is not a 'gay' issue but a 'man' issue. It is just the case that a gay relationship is made up of 2 men, rather than one man. Maybe even more than one man in many cases!

Perhaps another reason for the alleged issue is that gay men have broken the mould of the 'nuclear family'. I certainly believe that if I was not gay I would not be as liberal and open minded as I am now. The battle of 'coming out' in our society is so difficult for young people. When you manage to fight this, the whole concept of the '2.4 children' family is not important.

The majority of people follow relatively normal social rules. You get a boyfriend/girlfriend, you get married, you get a mortgage, and you have children. Well us 'gays' don't need to follow any rules do we, we have fought social norms and battled with them daily... Maybe this could explain a lack of reliability in gay men, if there is such an issue.

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