By a thread...

Dating is sometimes a dangerous game, has been for me in the past. I've been hurt, and I've hurt other people.

I am now mature enough to be proactive but also be sensible. I used to hang to men, always trying to keep options open, always having one man on as a fall back plan... No more...

All I ask is if I make my intentions clear to somebody, I want them to have the decency to say yes or no! Saying 'no' is absolutely fine. If you don't want to know me sexually, then say 'no'. It's really quite easy, it's a very short word, not too complex.

Sometimes it is hard to know where you stand with somebody, it's like being held by a small thread. They almost keep you hanging there. But who is to blame? The person who is too scared to be honest with you? Or you for going along with it? I'm a great follower of the 'he's just not into you' philosophy. If he is not replying to your messages, or calling you, or putting out; then he ain't interested. Either this or he is shit scared and has no self confidence. You can safely know he is not interested in you if:

He doesn't reply to your messages.
He never calls.
His friends always come first.
He doesn't want to have sex with you. (You deserve to be loved and you deserve great sex, so do not stand for this.)
I really could go on...

All this said, some men seem to have a hold over you. My advice is cut the thread before you get hurt. If you don't get what you want after making your intentions clear, then sack the prick! His loss! Move on... I have not followed this doctrine myself in the past but now I am making the bold move and shaking off any hold or thread any man has over me.

I have one such man at the moment. Yeah I like him, but after several flirt attempts, and to be honest I've basically cyber whored myself, I will not prolong the game. I'm by no means upset, I'm just frustrated, I hate losing at these games. but, I shall no longer play games.

I now have a date with a very nice guy I met once about a year ago. We're meeting up the weekend after next. Who knows he may be the one, he may not be... But sitting around waiting for love is not for me anymore.

I WILL MAKE LOVE HAPPEN FOR MYSELF!

To all the men out there who cannot be honest or enjoy keeping people held on by a thin thread... Just say no, its really quite simple...

Much Love!

And many happy endings!!!!!!