Gamer...

Would you date a gamer?

I wouldn't. Been there, got the t-shirt, it didn't fit!

I've had such a good time with various friends talking about our experiences of dating gamers. None of them were good. One of my dearest friends dated a gamer for several years, and she cannot believe she lasted so long.

Another friend split up recently from her gamer ex. She was heart broken, she loved him so much. He on the other hand thought more of his X-Box.

I dated a gamer once too, he was gay (obviously), but Lara Croft was far more appealing to him than me. His idea of a romantic night in was playing on his Play Station, whilst I watched. Sex was never an option. I would lay on the bed, wanting sex, hoping he would complete his level SOON. What sort of relationship is that?

Sex or a video game? Hmmm let me think!

Gamers do not have the ability to form human relationships, this is why they should stay away from other human beings. If you are a gamer, then this is a genuine life style choice, but do not pretend that you are capable of being in a grown up relationship.

Have you ever used the 'it's me or the playstation!' ultimatum? I have, and I came second. Final Fantasy totally kicked my arse!

Gamers lack all kinds of confidence, this is why they need to disappear into their little virtual worlds. How sad.

I love human contact, conversation, and company. I have tried to play games in the past, and got so bored. Battery chickens have better social skills.

Most people I know have dated a gamer at some point, and it has never lasted. They had little attention, little respect, and little sex. Housework never got done. Plates would pile high. Ash trays never got emptied. Pets did not go for walks.

A friend of mine told me how her gamer ex would wear the same clothes for days. I dated a gamer once, who showered once a fortnight. Not a word of a lie. I was young, naive, so don't judge me.

I would like to create an outreach service for gamers. I am being serious. Gamers need help.

I am sure I am going to upset some people, and I know there will be lots of gamers who think they can form a genuine human relationship. I would love to hear from a gamer who is in a happy relationship! Seriously, please contact me, let me know how you make it work. I would like to hear from your partner too.

This article is not just a out men. There are female gamers too. I used to live with one. We wouldn't see her for days, bill money would not get paid up, smoke would drift from under her door. You could smell the old pizza crusts rotting. And yes she was miserable. Instead of talking to people, and trying to get her life on track, she disappeared into a fantasy land.

Gaming is not healthy, and it is not attractive, and it is anti social.

The people I have spoken to, all seem happier after leaving their gamer exes. They feel free, liberate somehow. They are no longer frustrated, they no longer feel ignored or worthless.

I have spoken to some people who do not mind that their partners are gamers. They say that it is nice to have their own space. Sounds great doesn't it? But I do not want to be in a relationship where I can enjoy time on my own every day. I want to be in a relationship with somebody that wants to spend time with me. If you are in a relationship with a gamer, who prefers to spend his time with Lara Croft, then it is not a relationship worth having. You deserve to be with someone who you can stand to be with. Not be with someone who you can lock away in a room while he plays on computer games.

Games will always come first to a gamer. This is fact! You cannot compete with a Play Station. Don't waste your time, and step away from the gamer. You will not be satisfied, or feel fulfilled.

Gamers you seriously need to take a long look at your lives. You need to plan what you want to do with your lives, what will make you happy, and you need to make it happen. Be positive! But please stop gaming. You will never be happy, and you will never make somebody else happy!

Gamers, I strongly suggest you put the controls down and get a life!